In this episode, I explore one of the most unsettling, quiet shifts after child loss: the shift in our personal capacity.
After a child dies, many parents notice something they don’t always have immediate language for. It isn’t just that life feels different – it’s that your energy, patience, and bandwidth are no longer what they used to be. Ordinary demands feel overwhelming, small talk feels exhausting, and low tolerance for unnecessary drama or urgency may surface. If you’ve always been a capable, high-functioning person who handled everything, this shift can trigger confusion, frustration, or guilt.
In this episode, I share my personal journey after losing my son, Michael, and explore:
The Difference Between Worth and Bandwidth: Why a change in energy or emotional tolerance is not a failure of character, but vital information from your nervous system.
Discernment vs. Endurance: How growth after profound loss shifts our definition of strength from “pushing through at all costs” to honoring honest boundaries.
Grieving Your Old Capacity: How to navigate the secondary loss of your former energy, pace, and emotional steadiness without self-judgment.
Whether you are struggling to return to work, feeling exhausted by social expectations, or learning how to say an un-apologetic “no,” this conversation offers language and permission to meet your current capacity with tenderness.
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